Tuesday, March 6, 2012
I wanted to put my thoughts into a post to get something into words that has been becoming clearer to me recently.
Men are enjoyable to have as life partners. A woman is often able to enjoy sexual encounters with him while still keeping him sexually denied, thereby satisfying her sexual needs and giving him the gift of being kept in courtship mode with its associated pleasure mechanisms. This can be through training him in giving oral sex of her liking, or through the use of erotic products so he can remain withheld sexual pleasure. There is also the options of polyamorous incounters where the guy is kept chaste and obligated to fidelity while the women is not. A chaste man who is a partner (husband or boyfriend) is much more devoted and docile then one who routinely has his sexual desires slicked trough one way or the other thereby causing the corresponding changes in his biochemical makeup. A woman who is sexually satisfied is free of the frustration and is also able to enjoy her chaste partner’s devotion to her.
The idea of a relationship were a man is kept away from orgasmic pleasure and the women enjoys his devoted attitude and one sided sexual encounters with him as often or as infrequent as she desires is one where the benefits are hard to dismiss. It is very clear to me and just a superficial search on the internet finds a large chorus of people who are concurring through their own personal experiences. I know I am not an overly smart person. I have found that if I come to some conclusion or revelation that it is most likely not unique. In this case I find it to be something becoming more and more a conclusion of people who have tried the concepts in their relationship.
In fact, last night on the Oprah Winfrey Network there was a documentary of just such a polyamorous relationship. It was an alpha male, an alpha female and a beta male. The alpha male and alpha female who lived with the beta male had a son. He was cared for by the beta male. The alpha male got another girlfriend, while the alpha female and beta male remained unchanged. The impression I had was she would perhaps find another alpha in time while keeping her beta as a life partner. This was a show done in HD and shown in prime time. It was encouraging to me to see programming so parallel to my own thoughts on the matter and for me to be able to view it in my bedroom as I drifted off to sleep was a welcome comfort.
Posted by subservient-husband at 8:09 AM