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Security Enhancement for CB-6k
Security Enhancement for CB-6k
We came home today from my wife's brother's house to find my replacement #3 ring and the Kept for Her security enhancements. I am wearing them both and am glad to say I feel much more of the chastity subjugation then before. I am thankful to my wife for allowing me to purchase them both as I feel being kept locked is a gift she gives me to make my submissive service to her of more enjoyment. The effect of enforced prolonged chastity is known to make me a content and docile submissive for her to enjoy. In turn, it provides me the "key" (excuse the pun) to providing her the service I desire to give her, free of the obstructive effects my orgasms cause. I am excited to look forward to again breach the three week mark in another two weeks. After upgrading my CB-6ks this afternoon, my wife closed the clasp to what may be the last time for the year. She hinted that may be her desire, but time will tell.
The weekend was spent at her Brother's house. With my wife still navigating the transition into her new job financially, the disposable income she enjoys has been curtailed. The trip to her Brother's was an inexpensive way she was able to treat the family to a vacation. The new year is shaping for her seeing a larger amount of disposable income to enjoy as she chooses. As always, I am kept without any access to household funds and am just provided cash for fuel to get me around to the places she needs me to go. This mostly consists of work, but also the few errands she has me run as well. This payday, I am going to be given $75 for gas, and also cash to give the children their allowances. My wife is scheduling to go to the mall to get some new shoes next weekend. Also, she wants to go to the Apple Store to get an Apple mouse for her MacBook. She has included me more in financial discussions as we work our way out of a prolonged difficult spell. First, I was unemployed for six months and then she was. The two together will take some time to get back on our feet and she lets me have insight into where the funds are going incase I have any input for her to consider.
In the week I was mostly away, there were several comments about the blog and the lifestyle in general. Mr. Ajay from India in particular had several questions. I wanted to take a moment to respond now that I am back home and in front of a keyboard instead of just pecking on my iPhone. He believed the lifestyle to be fringe and should not be claimed to be something appropriate for common practice. I respectfully disagree. It is true that society has embraced by-in-large egalitarianism. For instance the recent change in royal lineage to include first-born daughters to the British throne is one recent example. I personally believe male subservience to be something that too will become socially acceptable as was the case for women in by-gone eras. Women in supporting roles was respectable a few generations ago. I see no reason why men holding the same status can not be similarly accepted as society continues to shift. To Mr. Ajay, I would say 'no', I do not think male subservience can be compartmentalized as a fringe kink. There are just too many indicators to the contrary to indicate a macro socital shift. I respect he may hold a differing view, but feel justified in holding to mine as well. In this matter, I feel we just have to respectfully disagree. I see society trending to acceptance of female lead relationships as a more and more common practice.



18 comments:
You wrote: The effect of enforced prolonged chastity...provides me the "key" (excuse the pun) to providing her the service I desire to give her, free of the obstructive effects my orgasms cause.
I've requested and was granted to remain permanently locked for one year exactly for this reason.
I see society trending to acceptance of female lead relationships as a more and more common practice.
I agree concerning the western developped societies.
Mr. RC,
you have been given a gift by your wife. Enjoy.
;-}
-SH
Being that you are in your device most of the time, have you considered moving to a steel device? My cb-6000s was good, but I really love my Steelheart. I know everyone is different, but steel seems much easier for daily wear and comfort. Just curious.
Mr. LH,
thank you for the input. Yes, the thought has crossed my mind. I am comfortable and just do not find cost justification to coughing up x number of saw-bucks to change and have not asked. For me, the CB-6ks is a good match. I am looking forward to the PoI and am very pleased with the Kept for Her security enhancement I just got.
The Steelheart and the Mature Metal products are well recommended. I do not knock them and know many who consider them superior to the polycarbonate products from A.L. Enterprises. I can see both sides of the coin. For instance the durability of stainless steel is unmatched. However, in a few weeks I will be at the courthouse on Jury Duty. I could not do so wearing a stainless steel chastity device, but could do so easily with a polycarbonate one. Same with airports and other places where frequent metal detectors are present. Also, the kits from A.L. Enterprises are easily adjusted for different sizes. Metal is a rather fixed medium, requiring mail-backs to adjust.
Anyway, I do not knock metal and very well may use one in the future. For the current state, I am sure to remain polycarbonate.
Sincerely,
-SH
I think that western society will certainly shift toward acceptance of female-led relationships. The shift in some eastern cultures may be slow or non-existent.
In the United States there are now many marriages where the wife is earning far more money than her husband. With that change alone the natural effect will be to see women leading their husbands. The natural result will be for men to submit to their strong, successful wives. I, for one, am proud to serve my wife and have assured her that if she chooses to tell people about our relationship I will remain her humble slave.
I say, bring on the new milennium and the rightful dominance of women.
SH,
ya i understand the difference between ur phone and key board!!! any way tanx for mentioning me in ur blog itself.
but still my questions are not answered...i am not arguing with u to stop this life style.... u can live as u like.. its the freedom that u have by ur birth..
my questions were
1] what would u have done if ur wife did not accept this life style?
2] how can u term chastity is normal when the whole world is terming it as kink?
3] if u guys are so serious y dont u show up urself in ur blogs?
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Mr. SH, Ric C and Sub2DomMom, i am not against female coming to power. they can rule the country become CEO's etc etc..but does that mean that men should live in there foot??? yes the world is changing more women are coming to power more of them are going to colleges...but that is because world is accepting the fact of gender equality..it is stupid to interpret it as women coming to power and men not going to college etc...
i am coming from a country which is led by a women[ Prathibha Patil - first women president of India] US ever had a women president?? the ruling party is led by a women Sonia Gandhi. more than that the most powerful prime minister of this country was Indira Gandhi..it was her insightful thoughts at that day, made this country resistant to second great depression.. as per Indian culture women had lot of importance.. the supreme god of Hindu's Lord SHIVA is incomplete without his wife Goddess Shakthi!!may be for the west women talking the lead role is a new thing..but not to east.
but y a man should live as a servant to women??? that is what i dont understand???
how is egalitarian not acceptable for u??? difference opinion happen between all... u have some with ur friends right?? in a normal hus - wife relation when there is a difference in voice they will solve it...thats how its work.... that is the way a loving husband and wife do... and being servant to someone is not the way!!!
no matter in what life style u live in...to serve ur mom, wife, daughter, sister, aunt, friend, or even a stranger is the duty of man.
y a man goes in one knee while he is proposing his gal?? ofcourse its a man that serve the women...out of love not because of D/s. a real man keep the ladies of his life safe and happy... for that u dont need to be in chaste and give up ur money and do all the house chores like a servant and let ur wife to go with other man [if all men become servant to gals, ur wife will have to go out with other servants..lol][sure i know ur wife is great in this regard, i respect her for that] these things are pure kink!!!
Mr. Sh, as i told i am not arguing with u to stop this life style..
just accept the fact that its just a kink.. and put a warning in top of ur blog and ask ur frieds to do the same
Mr. Ajay,
Hello again and your welcome. I felt obligated to respond to your questions, as they seemed honest and heart felt.
ANSWERS:
1] We lived egalitarian for ten years. I can easily do so again.
2] chastity is a suggestion by me. I do concede it is far from common practice and could be considered kink in today’s society. I do not consider a WLM (Wife Led Marriage) to be kink. IMHO, chastity is a helpful tool for a wife to use in a WLM, but that is just my opinion.
3] I am open, but my wife requires anonymity. I follow her wish.
I beg to differ that women are showing equal standing with men. The trend is inescapably clear. Women are better and are out pacing men now that society has a qusi level playing field. To me this speaks to their superiority over men.
To address your follow up questions, I find contentment living as a servant. It brings me pleasure. This is known as being a submissive. I discovered this through introspection. Why would I want to live as my wife’s servant? It is because it brings me real pleasure. I do know this is not the same for all men.
Keep in mind, my being a submissive is mutually exclusive from my views on societal shifts. For instance, people who were train enthusiast were encouraged to see rail lines laid as it indicated societal acceptance of something they enjoyed. They could measure societal acceptance in miles of track laid (an objective criteria). So too, I enjoy women in authority. I see society becoming accepting of this and have objective criteria to support my belief.
You seem to be suggesting an ideal relationship between a man and a woman is one where egalitarian principles are practiced and romance is infused from sincere love and devotion. You are not alone. I also believe you are free to hold this view. I do not believe you should be closed minded to alternative stances.
I hold a different view. I believe D/s is better for many reasons. To suggest there are not bonds of love as strong, if not stronger, in a D/s relationship is something that can be said only through ignorance. D/s has been in existence for the majority of human history. The equal footing (50-50) dynamic is a brief phenomenon in comparison. There are efficiencies inherent in a D/s relationship. 50-50 often breeds contention. This is a point I feel could be argued ad nosiam, but I do feel justified in holding to my view.
As to the content of my blog, I have been told to change what I write and the format of my blog a few times in the past, as you are now. I respond the same to you as I did then. If you do not like my blog, feel free to start an egalitarian blog of your own and format it as you please. You have the liberty to do so, just as I do.
Sincerely,
-SH
I certainly don't think of D/s relationships in terms of kink. And I also don't think this is right for all men. Every person is wired a little different and trying to figure out the next person using your own values is pretty tricky. For me, and some other men who frequent this site, there is a greater satisfaction in life by serving my wife than by pretending we are equal in every way. It gives me a great amount of pleasure to make my wife's day better.
I'm not locked into a chastity device as some men are. I do, however, wait until my having an orgasm suits my wife's needs. By doing so I have greatly increased the intensity of my sexual pleasure.
I think what it comes down to is that for men who are, by nature, wired to be submissive, it improves our daily lives to live in service to a wife who loves us enough to still respect a husband who doesn't want or need to be in charge.
We still provide all the same functions of security and masculinity, but are also confident enough to give up control of our lives to a magnificent, dominant woman.
Mr. S2DM,
The term ‘Kink’ is one used in BDSM circles to be all encompassing for all activities the umbrella term comprises. I agree that to me D/s is natural, has a long history, and is often commonplace in society. It just so happens that there are glimmers of this becoming more accepted in our society in respect to women as the Domme tops and men as the s bottoms. Although the BDSM community uses D/s as a kink lifestyle, I can see most often it is simply a natural extension of two people’s interactions with each other and therefore consider justified in claming a WLM not to be a kink lifestyle, in the traditional sense of the word. Perhaps at one time homosexuals were considered to be kinky. Today, it is simply accepted.
Thank you for taking the time to comment.
-SH
Like it or not, participate or not, there is ample quality research attesting to the increasing leadership role of women at work and in the home. Hopefully those of us that are either first or second generation subservient males, are helping to train our own kids in the beauty and value of female led relationships and marriages.
Culture backgrounds aside, doing as your girl friend/wife tells you will make you a better person. When there is respect, love, obedience, and unselfishness in the relationship, then the relationship can last a long time.
After forty-years, my Mistress/Wife remains the leaders; does as she needs and wants, but has never been disrespectful or selfish. We liked each other from the beginning. We fell in love. We both knew and agreed she would be in-charge. Yes, we each have strengths and optimize those strengths, there is no question who is in-charge, and who hold the key.
Obey, you'll be glad you did.
@Ajay: Could you use complete words please unless I have the impression of reading/writing to a pre-sholar kid... As for your questions:
1- Marriage is a life commitment and you have to constatntly adjust together. And evolution/changes... are part of a successful marriage.
2- 'All' societies/religions promote to remain chaste for the spouse, which is what is promotted by Orgasm Denial. The wearing of a device is to reinforce/facilitate that desire an is optional. It might add to the pleasure and be considered kinky if you want. I'm wearing a ring on my finger that shows that I'm married and is an affirmation to my wife and myself of my commitment to my marriage. Wearing a Chastity device is of a similar thinking.
3- You sign Ajay. Ajay who? But even if I know it what good will it give me? I doubt we'll meet for a coffee soon...
Last: It seems you're from India (a country worthed admiration). Why not spend your time on blogs that could positively impact people who deals with a caste system, pre-marital arrangements in which spouses have no words and women who immolate themselves from desperation? For my part if I can impact few marriages/relationships to give an unbalanced power (which is NOT total control) in the wife's favour because I'm convinced it could be beneficial in the Long term, I'll be happy.
Sh,
i am glad that u have now accepted chaste as a 'kink'. still now ur answers means that it is ur like that is going on in ur family...SH understand one thing that ur wife is such a loving personality...she is sacrificing a lot for ur 'kink'. ask her once. she will tell that oi am right... in short ur wife is sacrificing for ur kink but u belive it is u who sacrifice.
have u ever seen a epic written by a women?? a world famous women scientist [before 1900]??? no!!! y, because men was dominating... that is the problem of d/s style.... if equality was there long ago.... we could have seen some women in the above category!!
d/s means suppressing some one... it is never good... to suppress men or women... as i said earlier when more women come forward to the center of public it does not mean that men are going back...its just because world is coming to equality...if u interpret like this...well u r a hope-less interpreter then!!
on my research on this topic i found that those who come to this life style are mostly old age people!! do u know y?? they have money, but nothing to do..they are bored...they don't have energy ...so they find alternatives..unfortunately those people will come up with the idea of D/s...
its strange to see that young people going for it and people like u [who i believe to be an extraordinary writer..., ur simply wasting ur inborn talent] are advocating for some thing that is not at all good for the world at the same time it is a danger for the coming generations.
once my girl friend had a very bad financial situation...she asked my help...i reduced my expenses and kept a huge share of my income for her...and that was not a 'loan'!!thats how a relation work!!
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as i told earlier i am not asking u to move out of this life style..its ur wish...and also i would like to make it clear that i am not here to fight which sex is great...both men and women are equal...god have given a supercomputer in all our heads..we should use it and do good for society...not to surrender it to someone...
okay SH here i make it straight a d/s which involves chaste or money surrender or punishment or slavery or any other similar kind of kink ideas is to be considered as a 'Kink' life style. and u should accept it and mention it in ur blog.
"a relation can be said as egalitarian when a hus surrender himself to his wife and a wife surrender himself to her hus. a person with ego can never lead a egalitarian life" - Ajay...[lol]
thank u for reading buddies!!
Mr. Ajay,
I enjoy your comments and I thank you for taking the time to do so.
I said male chastity is not main stream, but I do believe it a very powerful tool available to a women who is leading her husband/boyfriend in her relationship with him. Whether or not this is subsequently classified as a ‘kink’ is an exercise in semantic.
Epic written by a woman, yes. Several. One comes to mind is the Sleeping Beauty trilogy by Anne Rice. Ironically, it is BDSM D/s based.
As to my wife, she is free to end my service to her and return to an egalitarian relationship with me. She has chosen not to. You say she wants to live with me egalitarian. If you would phrase that as a question instead of a statement, the answer from her would be ‘no’. She prefers to live with me as her subservient. There are efficiencies and liberties available to her not present in a 50-50 relationship dynamic.
You are correct that D/s means suppressing someone. One person’s desires are seen to be of more value and the other person lives to serve their master/mistress. It is exactly as you say, but I do not see this as wrong, as you do. Again, a difference of opinion.
You say men and women are equal. In India, are there any women cricket players? I saw no women in the World Cup soccer games either. There are unambiguous differences between the genders. In some aspects men are superior. Others, women are superior and men inferior. IMHO, the ones women are superior in are the ones a post-industrial society places a premium on and therefore they are advancing more quickly than men. There are objective statistics to back this up. I can see the change in where I live and I can also point to objective statistics. As a proponent of male submission, this trend is encouraging to me.
The doctor office I go to is run by two female doctors. All the staff too, save one, are women. My dentist office is run by two female dentist. 100% of their office staff are women. I did not go out of my way to find these. They were simply the closest to my home. These types of changes are all around. Going to vote will show an amazing amount of women candidates. This was not the case 30 years ago. There is a change that shows no sign of slowing down.
I think there is a change occurring that you find troubling and you are shooting the messenger. I am not making this up. I am simply a reflection of what is going on around. I recommend you open your eyes to the possibility that you may well be wrong in your beliefs. Male superiority with females deferring to them is soon to be replaced with the converse. Shooting the messenger will not stop the change.
Thank you again for the comment.
-SH
Mr. s-H and dualpurpose,
I have to applaud you for eloquently explaining the benefits of living in a WLM. I am happier with myself and my marriage now as a submissive husband than at any time in the past.
Last night my wife allowed me to remove the old nail polish from her fingers and toes and then replace it with a fresh color. I enjoyed doing it and was especially gratified to hear her say how relaxing it was for her. It made me feel like a giant among men to know I had made the woman I love so happy. I also know that it will bring a smile to her face each time she looks at her fresh "paint job" and remembers the experience we shared.
I can't recommend strongly enough the lifestyle of submitting to a loving wife/girlfriend for any man who is so inclined. It is life changing.
Mr. S2DM,
I know the joy of which you speak. I too am driven to feel it as often as I can. There is real pleasure and contentment there.
thank you for sharing.
;-}
-SH
I don't think men who are not living as subs can truly understand the joy of service to their wives. Even men who are submissive by nature can only imagine it. Men who are not submissive at all will certainly scratch their heads and say "WTF?"
I can only say that for my wife and I it works very well. My mood is better and she is more relaxed and happy than at any time for years. My regular comment to my wife is "I want to make this so beneficial to you that you will insist it go on forever."
Happy wife, happy life!
Mr S2DM,
Yes. I agree. It takes a leap of faith. For me, that leap took a tremendous amount of courage to verbalize my submissive desires to my wife. Once on the other side, I was amazed to find it much more enjoyable then I could of imagined, just like you.
-SH
A leap of faith is exactly the right phrase. If you don't truly love and trust your wife, this lifestyle is not for you.
A perfect dominant wife will utilize your willingness to serve her while still showing respect for you as a man. After all, what part of this is bad for her? The constant attention, relaxation, and increased free time is a dream come true for these lovely doms. And for us, the chance to worship our wives is all any man can ask.
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