Holidays were wonderful, but got started out on a rough note. I flew to Montreal on business and returned home about 1:00am. The next day I had to unpack and then pack to go to my in-laws for four days. The prospect of not being at home for a space put me in a foul mood. I had arrived home the night before with out my chastity device due to the international travel. My wife took the opportunity to give me an orgasm before bed and then again in the morning. I think the combination of bio-chemical changes and the frustration of travel put me in a difficult mood.
I discussed it with my wife and she agreed to let me be alone once we arrived at her parents house. That worked out well, as I had space to decline participating in family activities while I regrouped. My wife also made love to me after a night out for ice cream alone. She took the opportunity of her parents to baby-sit while her and I went out alone. It corresponded to our twelfth wedding anniversary. She ended my time unlocked with another orgasm the morning before coming back. I have reset my clock and am again locked in my CB-6ks.
The week current is between the successful Christmas at my Wife's parrents' house and new years at her brother's house. He lives near the coast and my wife is planning on taking the family next weekend. During this week, I have an amazing list of chores to get through since I was away on business last week. There is a lot of ironing and laundry, as well as house cleaning. I am also being conscious of my attitude, since I have past experience to know my behavior is not the best after my wife concedes orgasms to me. Also, I am looking forward to a trip to the local Adam&Eve my wife said she will do with me. I am not sure of her intent, but look forward to seeing what will come about from it. They do have a good selection of books and D/s novelties.
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hi SH
i am from India, i happened to read ur profile while surfing some thing else. but i was pretty impresed by ur way of writing... so i was forced to read ur whole blog...i simply congratulate for ur talent to write and express ur ideas.
more than that i was aroused by the concept of FLR. Actualy it was from u who i am learning it... for the past month i was spending my leisure time in reading ur blog and similar blogs. at the very beginning i tot of adopting it in my life but later on thinking about it i found some problems and doubts.. i would like to discuss that with u..
1. it is u who brought up this idea, and ur wife have accepted it. so it is ur wife who is living according to ur will. if it is like that,then who is the real subservient?
2. u do it because u love ur wife like anything, right? if it is so is this the only way to show ur love?? y do u need to do all the house chores by yourself? u can hire some one to do the house work and can spend time with ur wife that makes her happy.
3. what is the kind of enjoyment ur wife get when her only sex source is kept under chaste??? [u said she don't go for others, well a good lady she is, i respect her for that]. how far oral be a substitute for ur manliness?? i believe that it is a kind of kink that u get when u say to other that u did not had an orgasm for a said period[as per ur clock at the end of the page] At that point also ur wife is sacrificing for ur kink?
4. the last and most important, from ur blog i learn that ur kids are too young to understand what is going on... but they are taking the input for making a outlook on the world that they live in... actually its the things that they learn now will affect there personality in future. no problem in having ur a wife a dominanat role. but u having a slave kind position will affect them. they will get a lot of misconceptions about marriage, the role of father, role of mother and also they will have very wrong concept on equality and love. dont u think that ur kink life is destroying the future of ur kids?? there by the future of ur country itself??
[the last question is for u both. Mrs. Mary, dont u have any responsibility towards ur kids and ur country??]
so wat i learn from the FLR is that its just a kink[no hard feelings, i am just being frank], can u say with ur heart that its not a kink and its a very good way of living?
what make me to do this post is that i am impressed by ur way of writing... u can be a good author. pls dont be D/s author... write fictions.... not the kink one but the normal ones.. i bet ur wife and kids will be proud of u..
Mr. Ajay,
Hello and so glad you enjoy the blog as a form of leisure. I do as well.
Below are the answers to your questions. Take care. Happy NewYear.
-SH
ANSWERS:
1) Ms. Rika addresses this in her book. It is a very common situation which you identify correctly.
2) my love for my wife and my being a submissive I feel are mutual exclusive. I would be submissive if I never met her and I loved her enough to ask her to spend the rest of our lives together twelve years ago. For us, a D/s dynamic has been found to be a good way to operate the relationship. This was only discovered through a tremendous amount of introspection and courage to verbalize my feelings. It is a big change, but I feel confident in saying it is a superior relationship dynamic then an egalitarian one.
3) Good question. My wife is just not that fond of penetrative sex. When she does so, it is a concession for my enjoyment. She is clitorially stimulated and as such, keeping me chaste works well for her. Other women prefer penetrative sex, and for them keeping a submissive partner locked all the time is probably not the best answer. There are alternatives, but generally, it is left to the preference of the women.
4) kids are oblivious and if the argument you are suggestion there is a damaging effect to parents living openly D/s, I find that silly. Excuse me for being frank. Two parents working and pitted against each other, defending their own free time with the children neglected and feeling unloved is damaging. I find that an all too common situation in egalitarian dynamics. Our sons are doing well. They do not care who does the laundry. Plus, they will grow into who they are.
If you are suggesting a parent of a transvestite did something to cause their child to become deviant, I would simply counter that children are human and individuals. What about children in same sex households? There are many. They do not grow up homosexual most of the time. They are accepting of the lifestyle though.
So too, our children will grow into who they are. There is little we can do to alter it. I do believe they will understand the D/s qualities as they mature and be accepting of the lifestyle. Whether or not they choose similar paths is for them to decide. I do not see the harm if they would, though.
I do believe that D/s has been in existence for the vast majority of human existence. It is only recently that it is considered kink. I feel that it is soon to be once again common practice.
I must agree with you in reply to Mr. Ajay.
Your children will grow into who they are meant to be and as long as you are not too open about the sexual side of your relationship they will be fine.
As for you doing most/all of the household chores, there are very many married couples, with children, where it is the wife who has the full-time job and the husband is a stay-at-home dad. This does not have a detrimental effect on children.
I was laid off over two years ago and have been unable to find suitable employment in my field (I'm not fond of flipping burgers). Being a stay-at-home dad in a FLR has been the perfect solution. I love the extra time with my children that I was unable to enjoy while I was working.
While a FLR may not be everyone's "cup of tea," it is the perfect solution in our (and yours) case.
I have been following your blog from the beginning. It is one of the few that my Mistress allows me to read on a regular basis. Thank you.
- ra
yea SH,
i was afraid u may not publish my query!!!..but thank u for posting it and ur replies...
i can understand that ur really enjoying your life style and ur advocating for it!!
i have not read rika's book...so i dont know what is the answer for 1st one...but still from ur second answer i can learn that to live like a subservient is YOUR WISH. what if ur wife had not accepted ur request?? and asks u to live like equal husband and wife....would u have accepted it??
and about D/s style... the kind of d/s u saying is with consensus of both party.. but the d/s that existed was forced kind of thing.. like forced slavery.. black on white,,upper caste on lower caste,,, rich on poor..etc.. all this was for the money and power..
in the history of world many leaders have fought against this.. and recently some 50-60 yrs ago the world is seeing some change...and the change is equality among people..and now u say d/s is normal and we want it back... i feel it strange dont u?? no mr.Sh d/s life style [with consensus]never existed on earth....can u give me a single proof for it.. other than in some d/s books or fiction??
unconventional way of having sex can be termed as kink... as u have to be in chaste and do oral for ur wife. it can be said as a unconventional way...so isn't it evident that D/s is a kink only..
See SH, i am not here to argue with u... its ur life.. U can live the way as u like it..who am i to interfere in it... but when u state D/s is normal and good and it is something which is followed for centuries.. they all are wrong and contradicting to the facts...
there are people who reading this blog...some people are stupid enough to believe whatever they read... they will simply buy the ur statement that the D/s is not kink and a great life style...and they will implement it in there life style...
so no matter whether u accept my thoughts or not...i humbly request u to state n the top of ur blog that this is a kink blog and ideas discussed here only kink and not practical to all. i believe that u have understood my point and will do the same..
well one more thing!!! if u people are so serious about ur life style y u guys dont put ur real names and real photos here??? i have only seen a very few blog with real pictures.
and also in addition to the reply about ur kids and 'Ra' 's reply
i don't believe that ur kids came withe pre-programmed chip in there brain.. they have born in this world.. like we all.. and they will see the world through us only... and if they see there father or mother is treating the other as a servant..it is for sure that they will encrypt in the mind that a father is supposed to live subservient to the mother or vice versa...
there is some lady who is also a having a blog of similar genre[i forgot the blog name, her husband name is john]. she said in her blog that her daughter is also into this life style and also they said that she used to insult her in-law in front of others..which her in-law don't like[evident from her words].. if her grown up KID is influenced by her it is sure ur young will be too..
and now ur kids will grow up with that idea in there mind and they will find it difficult to find a partner.. others will think that they are insane and they suffer a lot because of ur wrong role models.
and to the reply by 'ra', hey friend... the kids will know what is happening at the house... if ur kids got brain they will surely catch whats going on there in there house.. so there is a limit for things that u can hide from them!!!
!!!happy new year to all!!!
You are being silly.
A Muslim man with two wives who both defer to him must also be kink. I believe the F/m dynamic is too foreign for you to accept. Therefore you are unfairly critical of it.
-SH
sh,
i thought u were brave enough to answer my queries... if u r brave enough answer it..rather than to term it silly...
Mr. Ajay,
Sure. Be happy to respond directly. May I ask for one question @ a time though, as currently I am mobile using an iPhone?
Thx.
-SH
You say your wife gave you two orgasms. How?
SH,
It must've been amazing being allowed to orgasm inside your beautiful wife. From what I've read, this is a very rare privilege for you. Wishing you the best in the New Year!
LH
Yup. Wonderful. She had me give her one via oral after so I had to lick her clean while I was doing it. She seemed to enjoy it too.
History has shown us that humans will naturally gravitate toward equality. Albeit slowly in many cases... If women become superior in your scenario, would that be the law of the land? Would women who choose to live in egalitarian relationships be branded subversives by the ruling Femme elite?
Equality among people of all genders religions races etc is where the world is ultimately heading. Even in formerly totalitarian societies such as Syria and China. Women will never "rule" over men. Except in private households where both partners accept and encourage thus.
Happy New Year
If you are really serious, how abouut a device requiring a Prince Albert piercing. I understand some of these are totally secure.
Anon #1,
She gave me two hand jobs, and once via intercourse. After the intercourse, she had me give her oral to bring her to an orgasm and to clean her. That was our wedding anniversary night and was a wonderful gift. We both enjoyed the evening together. Her parents baby sat so we could have the night alone.
Anon #2,
Your comment includes many sweeping generalizations. My view is simply based on changes I see in society and government statistics which indicate an impending societal disparity between male and female income potential. Happy newyear to you as well.
Anon #3,
Yes, a PA device would be the end all. I have corresponded with many men who have one. The devices from Mistress Lori seem to be some of the best for permanent wear. It is something I am open to, but I do not think my wife would consider a PA piercing at this moment. She may though and if she ever choose to have me fitted with a device that uses a PA piercing, I would not deny her the right to do so.
I just got an upgrade to my CB-6000s. I am back in the #3 ring which fits me just right. Also, I got the security enhancement from Kept For Her that prevents slippage. I found on accident while in the #2 ring, it was possible to slip out and this will prevent me from being able to do so. It also brings a slight amount of discomfort to erections while I wait for the Points to be released in March.
Thank you for the comment.
Sincerely,
-SH
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