This past week, there have been several things I have crossed paths with concerning the concept of submissives enjoying pain inflicted on them by their dominant.
The first was a post by Mistress Tamara’s submissive husband. He has mentioned often in the past how he does not get enjoyment when his wife uses him to feel her sadistic pleasure. His wife on occasion enjoys inflicting pain and her submissive husband accounts the times as a form of service to her, but without any reciprocal pleasure for himself as may be expected in a masochist. In his most recent post in response to an inquiry by Mistress Maui Girl, he accounts Mistress Tamara slapping him in the face. After she does so, he finds himself compeled to thank her. It is a well written post for someone who English is not their first language. I do recommend it.
The second thing is a movie I watched. It is available on NetFlix streaming and called “
Leap Year’. In it, the submissive (
a women in this case) craves her dominant inflict pain and other forms of maltreatment on her. After he does, she treats him as an honored house guest as her way of expressing appreciation and the two enjoy a spell together before he leaves. The ending is very well done and the movie need be watched all the way to the end for it to all come together. I really enjoyed it and recommend it for anyone who has access to the NetFlix streaming service. The concept of a submissive craving pain and then thanking their dominant is again reinforced in the movie.
Last night, my wife cornered me in our bedroom while I was busy running around doing chores. Thursday evenings are a busy time for me with Laundry. For several minutes she stroked my crotch and watched me while I helplessly suffered the pain that an erection brings in a chastity device with spikes. She was unrelenting for several minutes and as the pain washed over me, I became jello in her touch. It was her way of giving me a few moments of D/s for me to enjoy and display her power over me. As I write this now, it is again having the same reaction and also this morning while I got dressed going over it in my memory.
This concept of a submissive craving pain from their dominant and then feeling the need to express their appreciation to them when given was one Mr. I’m Hers asked me about if it was something that I thought would develop in him too. I let him know I have no way of knowing for sure, but the emotional masochism enjoyed in a disparity relationship is only a small step from being able to enjoy physical masochism. To me, the two are from the same submissive root, but both take time to develop.
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Mr SH- Thank you for your post, links and thoughts. OMG, I have to admit, the picture of your athletic Wife interrupting your laundry work by stroking you --leaving you helpless, in pain, and jello -- has me leaving a small wet spot in my panties!
I'm still hoping Wife will use the strap-on I bought her soon. But it is Her choice (sigh). I'd better get busy on chores to make the time go faster, LOL! (She's working now on the phone, while I type)
Mr. SS,
You are welcome. It was hot for me too. Glad your panties needed a changing.
;-)
It sounds wonderful to be helplessly fucked by your wife as she enjoys your helplessness at avoiding being humiliated by her. Hope you get the chance. I am sure my wife is too squimish to even consider such a situation. She does light humiliation, but that I am sure is outside her bounds, although I envy you if you get the chance.
Take care.
-SH
P.S.- on a procedural note, my CB-6ks #3 ring broke yesterday. I replaced it with the #4 (the next smaller one). As such, I no longer have any home made PoI. With the #4 ring, there is enough CBT from the smaller size to make erections sufficiently painful. I am going to wait for the official PoI to be released to switch back to get a replacement #3 ring and to go back to a spike CBT approach.
Baby,
That was an interesting post. On some level women often like to see a man suffer for them. It dosen't need to be physical pain, but it can be. Why women want this I don't know. It may be a way for a man to prove himself to a women.
In the studio we were able to observe men in the raw without a protective mask of any kind.
In the studio punishments could be painful. A rule was never to put a mark of any kind on a married man.
Instead of a spanking we would have a man kneel with his legs spread apart. We would then whip his testicles with a small rod.
This little punishment could be painful. The interesting part was how the men would react. They would
oten become very emotional, thanking the mistress for the punishment.
At first I tried to understand why the male was grateful for being punished. Then, I realized that on some level I actually enjoyed whiping men in this fashion.
Just as your wife enjoyed watching you suffer in the chastity device, I enjoyed having a man suffer for me. Why? What did it prove? I don't know.
When there is time I will try to do a posting on this subect. Why is it that women want to see the man they love suffer for them, or am I wrong?
Kathy
SH,
I was painting yesterday and thinking about your post with regard to your wife cornering you and fondling you. Do you know what came to mind? A single thought "your wife loves you." She does. The fact that she can play like that speaks volumes. Yes, you wrote about pain, but I kept thinking of love. She cares. She enjoys you. She loves you (and I'm sure loves all you do to make her life more enjoyable). Be thankful for her. Not all have what you have.
Take care friend.
IH
Mistress Kathy,
Thank you for sharing your experiences. You have a lot of experience which answers many questions. To me, being subjected to punishments or pain are displays of the disparity between me and my wife. As such, there is a sense of relief that my true self is being acknowledged and permitted to be openly expressed. Perhaps that is why the men having their testicles whipped with a small rod expressed emotion after, since their hidden inner selves were being allowed to be openly expressed and that became emotional for them.
I am glad you have found a path to enjoying having a man suffer for you. You deserve to be happy. Take care and have a happy holiday.
Mr. IH,
Hello. Yes, I do agree. Her putting me into a painful moment is an expression of love. Ms. Rika calls such extensions from a domme giving the submissive a ‘treat’.
I am very thankful for her and love her dearly. Happy holiday.
Sincerely,
-SH
Mr SH- I'm Thankful for your posting and inspiration. Much appreciated! :) Nice dressing day today, getting things done as the Wife works, and son is at school. I'd better get cracking, actually, lol!
Wife has been very busy with work.
Wishing you all the best this holiday!
Mr SH- I'm back, just had to share. I got my wife ready for work today, as I'm staying home. Was doing the dishes, and saw a great fix she had done to improve something that was a problem in the dishwasher. Women really do it all these days!
It was nice to be in my panties, cleaning and putting her wine glasses away as she prepared to head out. I'm reflecting today on how I don't do as much as I should, or always in the way she likes. But you are always an inspiration, thank you.
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