There have been many changes to my 24/7 subservient lifestyle recently. The biggest change has been my wife accepting a job as a school teacher. After she did at the start of the school year, her schedule required her to leave the house at six in the morning. Her and my wake up times consequently moved dramatically backwards. I now wake at 4:45am each work day. This permits me enough time to shower, dress, and prepare my wife’s breakfast in time for when she comes downstairs. This change has curtailed our end of day activities dramatically.
This is a big change from previous times where the two of us had more evening time alone. My wife has not really asked for a massage nearly as much as before the adjustment. Instead, she finds brief ways to let me express my subservient stance. For instance, she expects me to remove her exercise clothing. She has a pattern of working out after she is done with school and I remove her shoes, socks (kissing her feet in the process), and the rest of her exercise clothing. I then start her shower and bring her clothing to the hamper. She will enjoy speaking to me while she is nude, knowing my chastity device spikes are causing a twinge of pain. It is something she has seemed to take a liking to. Those times, along with my efforts on Mr. Indy’s caption post web-site are times where the chastity device spikes cause a challenge for me. My caption posts are quite hot and really set me off. Having a catch-22 in such circumstances has also been a dramatic change. Before it was just frustration. Now there is a painful reminder to counter.
The shift in schedule, the chastity device spikes, and the new PS3 are all changes I have had to learn to adapt to. Part of the pleasure of living a subservient lifestyle is putting submissive talents to use in an ever changing series of situations, looking to my wife as an authority figure who is willing to use me in her service to fulfill her pleasure. It is a constantly fulfilling way to live. I do hope my wife will start to experiment with infliction of pain on me. I am finding it is something I am craving and she seems to be in the process of finding her way with the concept. I do not know for sure, but I think I may find her more willing to display the disparity between us with putting me into painful moments in new ways in the coming weeks. I will update if that does end up happening. For now, she seems to be just living the privileges of a dominant and experimenting with inflecting pain through the chastity device spikes.
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Mr SH - glad to hear that things are progressing well for you both, and that like others, you seem to be coming up with different ways for your wife to feel comfortable with expressing her dominance over you.
Mr. @AT,
Yeah, it has been like that with all the changes. She tried pinching me often, but she has her nails done in the salon and she could not really pinch me at all hard. She gave up that after a few weeks. On Friday, she tickled me to tears for about five minutes. I let her know tickle domination is actually a real thing common in the dominatrix circles. That too may be one she explores. Just now at breakfast, she said she will try a “scene” with me where we pretend she is the teacher and I am a student in trouble. Not sure when that will happen, but I think that too is a new way she will be able to express herself as the dominant over me by giving me a D/s treat of a scene to enjoy.
-SH
Here are some fascinating comments left on Femdom 101:
What it was like to grow up in
a Femdom family?
I don't know any other way. I guess it was fun to have a man do what you wanted. I learned early what it meant to have a daddy who is not the one in charge. If he told me I couldn't do something (like leave my homework till later, or go with friends to the mall) I would obey as I knew mummy had given him authority. Me and my two older sisters always felt loved and safe.
Did Your Mother ever discuss Femdom with You?
She told us about our priveleges and responsibilities. She told us about discipline and punishment and about her delegated authority...which meant if daddy told us to do something, we could be sure she had given him permission.
Do You respect Your submissive father?
Oh yes, I love him dearly...he's a great daddy.
How did Your boyfriend come to submit to You?
His mummy is my mummy's best friend, so he was brought up submissive.
Please say more about your husband and father talking as two submissive husbands - Bill
They mostly chat about chores they do and the clothes they wear. I guess they compare how we treat them. I guess I'd have to get my husband to answer your question. But that permission wont come soon.
Zoe
Can You tell us what Your Mother told you about the priveleges
and responsibilities of Women and also about discipline and punishment?
My momma taught us that women are naturally superior and that a good submissive man makes the best house husband. She told us that we should never endanger our or our submissives safety. That with high privelege comes responsibility. For example when she went out the oldest girl in the house was in charge. Our Daddy had to ask permission to do anything no matter how small e.g get down from the supper table, go to the toilet, start the washing up or watch television. It was our responsibility to be in control at all times. Momma handled punishments so I didn't see much of that, although my older sister did. Discipline meant that every Friday after supper daddy had to acount for his week.
If You have children would You consider raising Your Daughter to be dominant and Your son to be submissive?
We dont have children yet...but, yes I'll paas on the baton to my daughter. My son will be a submissive....of course.
Do Your Sisters have or accept Female Dominant relationships?
Yes, they are both dominant in their relationships.
Can You tell us more about how Your husband's Mother raised him?
He was raised with his younger sister to be very obedient and submissive. His chores included tidying his sister's room and helping his daddy wash and iron. I remember when we first dated his momma asked me to get him home by 10.00 pm and said he doesn't drink. He didn't argue with her, that shows how good he is. He didn't need much training by me...he was and is like a good looking male bimbo. He told me he was punished if he got higher marks than his sister in an exam at school, even if he knew all the answers he'd make sure he made some mistakes. Even now he sometimes amazes me how little he knows about math and history and science.
Was the CB Your idea or His?
He doesn't have ideas, it was my decision to put him in a CB....his momma gave me the idea one evening over supper.
Do You think Female domination is the natural order?
Yes, it works because it is natural. Tom, my husband, doesn't even consider any other way of living. When we meet up with my work colleagues I have to remind him that all the guys are equal to their wives and girl friends. I do this just in case there is any embarrassment....for example, if one of the guys speaks whilst I am speaking, or chats to me as an equal.
Is your husband happy in his submissive role?
I have never considered this question. As I type this he is in the utility room ironing after bringing me a coffee...he seems happy.
Is your father happy in his submissive role?
yes, daddy is very happy...he is in his natural element. Sometimes when the family are all together I wonder if he would like to be included in our fun and conversation, but then I realise I need him to go fetch me something from my tote and click my fingers...I realise it's not his place to be my equal.
Do You think Women are superior?
Yes, in every way. Men just can't compete with us. Can you imagine your daughter failing an exam on purpose because if she passed with more marks than her brother she would be punished?.....of course not...but that's what my husband did....and he did it happily.
Do You think that Women should be treated as the embodiment of Goddess?
No, we are not goddesses..just superior. In a moment I will press a little buzzer and my husband will come into the study, curtsey and wait for my instructions. When I tell him what I want he will do it happily without questioning my authority....is that being a goddess?
Zoe
Can You explain how Your father
was punished by Your Mother?
Punishment was always something strictly between my parents. We girls knew he had been caned or slapped but we rarely saw it. When we grew older we might slap his face or send him out of the room.
How do You feel when a male
speaks to You as an equal?
That's ok. It's normal at work or if a free male is a guest in my house.
How does Your husband feel
about it?
He understands his place. He may be envious but he wouldn't say so.
Does Your husband speak only
when spoken to?
In real life this is impossible to achieve. I would rather he spoke respectfully and freely. I may tell him to stop speaking if he annoys me, but he is free to speak.
Is this a good general rule
for males?
No, because it is better he thinks and speaks respectfully.
Do You feel a Dominant Wife
should feel free to have
other lovers?
Of course, if she wants to. I have a regular guy called Jason.
Are You dominant in the bedroom?
Yes.
"it was my decision to put him in a
CB....his momma gave me the idea
one evening over supper."
I just LOVE what You shared.
Can You tell us more how this
came up in conversation, and
what his Mother said?
It was so sweet that She made
the suggestion. I think locking
Your husband is such a sweet and intimate
way to show that because You care about him
You lock him up... (sigh...)
It was one hot afternoon in my mother-in-laws garden. We were sipping fruit juice and chatting. Both our husbands were at our feet kissing our toes. She was chatting about cb's and how good they were at ensuring obedience in the male. She suggested I might try it with Tom. We discussed the pros and cons and she got her husband to go fetch an old one he doesn't use any more. She fitted it on Tom and geve me one of the 2 keys (she kept the other one). Tom has been in that CB3000 ever since.
Could You tell us about Women
that You consider role models?
Miss Kathy is a role model, my mummy, Tom's mummy. Among famous people I admire Diana Ross and Beyonce.
No more questions please.
Zoe.
SH,
Enjoyable post. Your life sounds busy especially given the schedule your wife has with such an early start to her days. I read with interest your last comment about your desire to have her add more pain to your life. This caused me to wonder.... do you believe that you will not be content as her sub should she choose not to cuck you or cause you pain, or lock you up permanently or make you crossdress in public or any other such submissive acts? I know that you follow the pattern of Uniquely Rika in your marriage and in her format, there is no progression of one's submission but rather continual service. I wonder if you are subtly walking that path of topping from the bottom as you wish for increased submissive feelings from your wife who I gather is not that interested in pursuing such interests. It's just a question but I wonder if you are not content where you are currently. Have an enjoyable day.
IH
Anon,
Thank you for the re-post. It is a wonderful read and I thank you for taking the time to compile Mistress Zoe’s responses for me and the people who frequent the blog.
Mr. IH,
Hello. Excellent points. Funny you should mention Ms. Rika. It is precisely what is bringing about the changes. Ms Rika talks of the need to engage in ‘male centric’ activities. My wife and I are finding our way with ones that work for us. All of the ones you mention are okay with me. My wife has set bounds on her comfort with cross dressing and cuckolding. Permanent chastity and the infliction of pain she is exploring. I do think it is fair to say absent any male centric activities, yes I would become dispondant. I believe Ms. Rika says the same. A submissive has a real need to feel the preverbal leash of their dominant. It is the one true need of a submissive in a D/s relationship. How that is put into practice is different for each. For me, my wife is comfortable keeping me as her chastity slave, docile and denied. She is exploring causing me moments of pain too.
Thank you for the comment and I hope I answered your question. It is well known I am a manipulative person and am prone to topping from the bottom. I have found the cure for this is staying more then three weeks chaste. After that point there is a noticeable change in behavior that is a reproducible experience.
Sincerely,
-SH
Mistress has directed me to make a comment. She does not agree with the remark by Miss Zoe.
Those of you who have read Femdom 101 know that Mistress and I have both a son and a daughter.
Mistress makes the point that if our son were to be submissve that would be fine. We want the same things for both of our children. A son should never be required to obey a sister even if he were openly submissive. This is something Mistress has strong feelings about.
In general Mistress does not agree with the idea of a daughter being put in-charge of a father.
She will make a comment to that affect in the next few days.
She does think there are some exceptions to that rule.
slave john
Slave John,
I thank your Mistress for directing you to take a moment to convey her view. That was nice of her. I believe my wife/mistress believes as yours does on the matter.
-SH
S-H,
I too would like my wife to explore pain a little more. I can't fully explain her feelings on this. She enjoys playful slaps to my genitals when I am not expecting it. I don't really enjoy that, it hurts me like any other guy like you see on America's funniest home videos all the time. In fact, she gets upset with me, if I block her from a blow to my genitals.
However, when I am aroused, I can take a significant amount of pain. We both enjoy that, although I do wish she would spank me more and that she would explore other avenues, such as nipple torture and the use of clothespins.
I too prepare my wife's breakfast virtually every day, except on the weekends when she will often sleep in. I don't have a lot of time to play video games; I am envious of you there.
Unfortunately, she has not finished reading Uniquely Rika, but she did mention that it was on her "to do" list. Like you, when my wife went back to work full time, it has put a damper on a lot of our activities.
Mr. LTS,
Hello. I understand completely. I watched a movie that is on NetFlix called Leap Year. In that too, the submissive (a girl in this case) craved to have pain inflicted on her by her dominant lover. She would great him at the door when he came over, first removing her clothing and waiting submissively for his desires for her to comply with. It is a good movie, but needs to be watched until the very end to have it all come together. I recommend it, if you have access to NetFlix.
Hope all goes well for you two. Enjoy.
-SH
Anon,
In the interest of brevity, I recommend the book linked to the left. It sums up the stance I hold on chastity. As to milking, I find the practice to be a BDSM activity. I know of no medical reason why it would be necessary. If you feel differently, I suggest asking your local doctor instead of your local dominatrix whether prolonged chastity has any ill effect. The only thing I have ever found was one study that mentioned risk factors lower then akin to eating once per week in a fast food restaurant. The risk factors attributed to diet are pronounced. The one study mentioned risk factors vague and ambiguously defined. There are plenty of counter studies which recommend the health benefits of chastity. My view is there are no medical reasons, and I am a proponent of the interpersonal effects prolonged chastity has on a man in a relationship with a women. When a man is living in a relationship with a women as her subservient, IMHO it is in both of their best interests for him to be kept chaste (i.e. without orgasm). I outline my reasons in the book. If you wish to find justification for milking, I am sure you could do so. I just do not believe you will find any in the medical community who concur it is necessary. Instead, it is in my view a BDSM practice which some may choose to engage in.
Thx for taking the time to comment and thx for joining the conversation.
;-}
-SH
It is interesting that my Wife is showing more interest in inflicting pain. Beyond the spanking, She has shown interest in smacking my hard dick around, and swatting my balls lately. I wonder where She would be learning all this? :) I'm fortunate she has not tickled me, Mr SH... that would be too much for me. A smack to the face to correct me would be nice. The little butt pinches are nice... I hope your wife's nails get better soon! :)
MR SH
I love the bottom photo of the aproned husband serving his wife a drink. It really seems to symbolise what your blog is about. A loving househusband willingly serving his wife
I hope you have a Happy Thanksgiving.
As ive mentioned before.Once upon a time it would be the women that cleaned up after Thanksgiving. But more and more ,when im at friend's houses[i live far away from family.As do many of my freinds], its the men that do.
And ive found that when i go volunteer to help clean up after a Thanksgiving dinner, my various friends's wives not only accept my offer.But often leap at the chance of taking their female freinds in the living room while us men clean up
Mr. Bob,
I volunteered to wash dishes at my sisters house. My sister accepted my offer and I will be doing as you mention in the coming days.
;-}
Enjoy your holiday.
Sincerely,
-SH
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