This past weekend the children were off of school starting with a half day on Friday and continuing with days off on Monday and Tuesday as well. My wife decided for me to use PTO to be with the children. Also, she arranged for me to bring them to her parents’ house for over three days. She stayed for one of the days, but returned home to work on Monday and Tuesday while I tended things at her parents’ house with the children.
When I came back on Tuesday, I was amazingly busy with chores. That night, my wife let me show her some of the caption posts Mr. Indy has decided to publish that I authored. She did like most of them and one she even alluded to being like ‘
art’. That made me feel very good. She then had me go down on her and after she got off, directed me to kiss her feet in appreciation.
Being permitted to give her an orgasm is a treat she is gracious in giving to me. I think she is seeing it that way too now and is letting me express my appreciation after by kissing her feet. She is very good to me to keep me locked in chastity and feel free to flaunt her enjoying herself sexually knowing I am to be kept denied. It is a big change, but one I find I strangely embrace. Her seeing it as something needing me to express appreciation for too is a change, but I do agree that I do need to thank her for being permitted to get her off while being kept chaste. It is a gracious treat she provides me for which I need to be thankful and overtly express by kissing her feet when directed to or any other way she feels she wants me to express it.
While I was staying at her parents’ with the children, the first day my wife arranged for a combination birthday celebration for our youngest son and her mother. It was at Chuck-E-Cheese and my wife bought the food while her parents supplied the game tokens. The group was a total of 11 people and everyone really enjoyed themselves. It turned out great. Both of our children let me know it was the highlight of the trip for them. My wife knocked that one out of the park. The next day her parents treated everyone to a Chinese buffet before my wife left, leaving me and the children behind. I of course, was locked in the chastity device without a key the whole time while at her parents house. It was really a non issue, except for keeping me chaste when I would of otherwise found reason not to. My wife left me with some money to take the children to McDonalds for lunch while she was gone. That and a trip into the forest to enjoy some fall color rounded out a really good mini-vacation.
I find as a submissive, living under my wife’s direction works out well as far as scheduling free time goes. I just let her decide and she lets me know when and where to go when she feels it is time I need to know. I am otherwise kept mostly in the dark as to what her plans may be. This gives her the freedom to mull over options, leaving the final decision until situations warrant. Not having to solicit my opinion unless wanted is a freedom she enjoys. It also is a demonstration to me as to my place in the relationship. I am subject to what my wife wants to do. It is her desires that are fulfilled, with me working to see things as she wants. In that outline, I find submissive pleasure. Also too, I get to enjoy as a participant the things she chooses to do.
With Halloween on the horizon, there is a busy spell for me. Anyone who lives in domestic service knows it is one of the holidays that take an extra toll on the service commitments. I am looking forward to continuing to live as a docile husband to my wife’s authority over me and am hopeful she will find me fulfilling her wishes. It is what I strive for. Also too, I hope she continues to enjoy learning to expect me to express apperciation for giving me the oppertunities to serve her sexually and otherwise. It is her way of being nice to me and her new expection of me in turn expressing this graditude is something I am hopeful she continues to grow to enjoy.
15 comments:
Mr.SH- What a lovely week for you all! Great you got to spend time with the kids and keep your Wife free to do as She needed.
Lucky you, being able to please Her and kiss Her feet afterwards!
Love how She frees you up from having to worry your pretty head about planning, etc! :)
Some progress here, as my Wife threw me on the bed and had Her way with mess.... delightful.
Mr. SS,
Hello and thx. Yes, I do feel luck to have a wife who is growing comfortable in both directing my service and now starting to see her doing so as something that I should overtly express appreciation for.
In a nod to your screen name, today I asked to be spanked. I had neglected my chores yesterday and felt it appropriate. It took courage to kneel before her and ask to be spanked, but that is what I did. She told me how angry she was with me and I thought I saw a hint of consideration, but alas, she fell back to her normal pattern of instead ignoring me for a few days as punishment.
Ahh, yes, the joy of being slammed to the mattress and be taken advantage of like a helpless little man by a women. You are indeed privileged to be treated like that as an expression of your true nature.
;-}
-SH
How many times have I been in a similar position, asking for something, justifying it in your own mind, hoping that she will be moved enough to try it just once, knowing however deep down that just asking will annoy her, only to be ignored.
Oh the trials and tribulations of being a submissive man, married to a vanilla wife.
Mr. @AT,
Glad you too could relate. To be honest, I have to believe it is her expressing herself sadistically on a semi-subconscious level. I think many women are like that. Withhold something that would be fun in a sexual way as a means of striking back at the difficulties society places on women. My wife could easily play the dominant and spank me, but refuses. She does believe it is okay to use corporal punishment on children though. To me the hypocritical justification furthers my belief that deep down, my wife enjoys inflicting pain by withholding things of enjoyment. It is a way her sadistic side can be expressed in a semi-subconscious manner. I see a lot of the same behavior in Jane. In many ways, being subjected to this form of emotional torture is worse then men who endure physical pain through corporal punishment. The physical pain is fleeting. Often our emotional torment lingers for months.
If my wife would spank me with her hair brush or extract some form of other physical corporal punishment, it would be physically painful and I would know after it was done that I have paid the price she required for the fault. I would have the marks and pain to remind me and deter me from behaving the same way in the future. Ambiguity of emotional torment I do not feel has the same cathartic effect and as such is not a good a form of operand conditioning. However, as you suggested, such is the plight of living with a vanilla wife in a D/s context.
;-}
-SH
Mr. SH,
To me, the peak submissive feelings came at the mention that she had to give you money to go to McDonalds. - Bill
Mr. B.,
Yes, as something that has become routine for us is often remarkable when I mention it in posts. I am the bread winner in a household that is above the top 15% for households in our state. That means more then 85% of the households look up to me as someone with financial freedom. On the contrary, I am subject to financial dominance by my wife and can not even buy myself lunch at work. I am allotted enough each pay cycle for fuel for the mini-van she has me drive and incidentals such as children’s allowance. Anything additional I need request from here to give me, as I have no access to household funds.
-SH
SH,
You wrote:
She told me how angry she was with me and I thought I saw a hint of consideration, but alas, she fell back to her normal pattern of instead ignoring me for a few days as punishment.
Perhaps your wife knows that ignoring you for a few days is a real punishment for you. I think a spanking is something you really want - you may not enjoy it when it is happening but the thought of it is part of your submission.
-CH
Mr. CH,
The overt punishment of withholding chances of service is unambiguously her intent. She told me so directly. This is a punishment recommended by Ms. Rika among others and it does work 4 me too.
There is also the danger of punishing a mouse by giving it a piece of cheese. For instance spanking a masochist. Truth be told, there is not many ways to punish a masochist.
I do think the ignoring punishment appropriate. I asked my wife if she would consider spanking me at the end of it, but she is still not comfortable with hitting me. Ms. Rika does encourage women to do such things they may feel uncomfortable with as an enduldgence for their submissive men. She calls them 'male-centric' activities. My wife really does none of these or only in a superficial way.
-SH
I also find myself very appreciative after my wife allows me to pleasure her. Even though she appears far less dominant than your wife, and am always sure thank her, and let her know how I do love bringing her sexual pleasure. I know few other things that make me that happy.
Mr IH,
I know, Right?
;-}
-SH
Mr. SH- Thank you for telling me you requested a spanking from Her. I know it is very humbling to do..yes, alot of courage is necessary at times.
I hope she doesn't ignore you too much. But if she does, at least we all know it is the best thing for you.
Have a great one!
Mr. SS,
Yes, she let me massage her feet two nights ago, marking the end of the ‘punishment’. She tried some pinching, but she is pathetic at it and couldn’t even get me to flinch. I offered for her to use binder clips instead. Those hurt like a son-of-a…., but she has so far not taken that one up. She is really squeamish when it comes to the pain thing. I think that is why she comes up with reasons anytime presented with something in that avenue.
If I may ask, what form of spanking do you have administered to you on the occasions that you are spanked? There are hair brush methods, canes, belts, and just simply hands. Which does your wife enjoy and finds works best for her?
-SH
Mr. SH- Thank you for asking.
My wife administers spankings mostly with a wooden paddle I got for her use. It's not too large, about 5 by 7 inches, so very handy and convenient for her to use. She also will spank me by hand, usually to start, after directing my pants and panties to come down.
Sometimes she likes me over her knee, but I'm often pushed onto the bed, and moved so my butt is available to her while she stands.
Ooh, almost forgot about the nine-tails! Not a serious leather one, but a smaller play one. Sometimes that grabs her fancy! :)
Like your Wife, she is sometimes squeemish about hurting me. I could take more (usually!).
Interestingly, she pinched my butt just this morning here, as she got out of bed. I think clamps are too much for our wives... I like my wife pinching my nipples, but I think I may need to get the clothespins to move that up a notch. I think she might enjoy that better; perhaps your Wife will too.
Admitting we want or need a spanking -- maintenance or punishment -- seems here to be an important part of letting our wives know how much we adore and need them.
I hope, Mr SH, that this will be useful to you.
Mr. SS,
thx for taking the time to reply. I appreciate it.
Sincerely,
-SH
Mr. SH- It's not often I think about someone other than my Wife when pleasing her, but I did early-am today.
Wife smacked me while pleasing her, and it made me perform better! Thought of our discussion while I was being, er, percussed! :)
She woke up early in the dark, reached over and played with a nipple of mine.. mmm. She put a leg over my pantied hard-on. Then, She told me she needed one of her fav back-and-butt rubs!! Thought I'd be shut out...oh no.
But she pulled me up when she wanted, er, more attention from me. I pleased her.
She let me know I would need a maintenance spanking before she leaves on her next work trip. Of course, I agreed. :) Hope you're getting similar treatment there, my friend. :)
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