Dominant Wife:

Living as a submissive is a continual learning process. I find it second nature to tune into my wife’s wants and desires and it is almost a form of intuition by now I seemed to have developed. Not quite 100%, but I do try. As she explores new areas, I find I bend my service to what she may be desiring. Recently, she has been kind enough to express her dominance to me in clearer ways. The difference has been distinct.

For instance, she has shown glimmers of sadistic behavior with me. Albeit brief and fleeting, she will tease me to acute arousal to enjoy the glint of torment it brings to me. When she does, it makes me feel embarrassed and slightly humiliated. She has said she likes it when I feel this way and has found it something new she has come to enjoy.

Also, she has shown surprising liberal use of expressions of her anger towards me. This is something she never use to show comfort with, but has done so on several occasions recently. When she does, I feel the impulse to thank her for expressing her anger to me. I had always felt she should when she felt reason to do so, but she never really did, save for once ever blue moon. Recently, it has been several times per week. I am thankful since her expressing her anger to me is a way I can correct something that is preventing my service from being enjoyable to her. I find abject acceptance of her anger and readily admitting fault to come natural. It is still a work in progress for me, since her readily expressing her anger to me is a new form of interaction that I am still becoming accustom to. I do find it appropriate to thank her for doing so. To me it seems right.

In extended chastity, I find living in passive service to my wife to be where I find contentment. It was not the case when I was given relatively frequent orgasmic privileges. I think the absence (or dramatic decrease) in my attempting to steer things has opened for my wife the opportunity to grow into her dominant role much more so then if I was making it difficult for her to learn on her own. The key has been enforced extended chastity. I am unable to maintain chastity for extended durations, and my wife has provided me the enforcement to my chastity commitment. This too I am thankful for as it provides a means of my service to be enjoyable for her.  This is the goal I crave and the contentious behavior that my orgasms create gets in the way of reaching this goal.

Dominance is defined as, “Overlooking and commanding from a superior position”. My wife is superior to me. I am thankful for things she does to help me remember this truth. Things like delegation of chores, keeping money that I earn withheld from me, having me kneel in her presence, and many others are ways she provides me reminders of her superiority over me. Again, these are things I am tremendously grateful for. It is my tendency to forget that my wife is my dominant partner. I do well being submissive to her. The meager service I am able to provide her leadership in the relationship is but my small part. My obedience to her and my gift of service submission to do with as she may enjoy is what I offer. Her willingness to use this is a gift she provides to me as a way I can enjoy my submissive pleasure. It is the cultivating in her husband the enjoyment of submissive pleasure (to the absence of other pleasures) that makes a dominant wife successful, as the husband is directed into a life of contented service.