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My wife was a little uncomfortable with my thoughts. We discussed them and I assured her I was not putting any pressure on her for any changes, but just trying to record my thoughts. I apologized if they were too graphic for her, but was trying to be honest with my feelings.
About five minutes later, she came downstairs in her gardening clothes, getting ready to go out and do some of her gardening therapy that she likes so much, but has so little time for. I had the French Open on and Rafael Nadal was taking to the court. She said, “He’s cute” and I felt the little twinge of humiliation, but it was a play to my submissive side and felt good to me.
She asked me, “are you all aroused since I said he was cute?” and I told her I was a little. Anyway, I think the playing the feelings to my submissive cravings is something that I will be able to work with. I’ll see how it goes…..
I know your wife has many things going on at the present time. Pick your spots, and tell her how you really feel. In time, I believe she will satisfy your craving for humiliation. If not with total cuckolding, with some form of flirtation, teasing, etc. Good luck!
ReplyDeleteMs. Suzanne,
ReplyDeleteThank you for the nice comment. I do not know if I crave humiliation at this time. Perhaps it will be something I will over time. I do not know. It seems to be a source of pleasure in the current context and I think can be so in the future too. Really whatever my wife decides she would enjoy, either keeping me chaste w/o providing her sexual service and allowing the humiliation aspect to work to my contentment, or to incorporate my sexual services again so I get the submissive pleasure of knowing she is enjoying while in chaste service.
Anyway, I believe she is now aware of my thoughts and feelings after our discussion this morning and is free to act as she wishes and would most enjoy.
Again thx for the comment.
-SH
The whole humiliation thing works for me if I am humiliated for her pleasure as well as my own in the process. Our relationship is not based on having others in it for our pleasure together or alone. Humiliation is something I have craved from an early age and she know it and can use it to her advantage and our mutual pleasure. For example, she knows I wear her panties. If she were to let this be known to others in some way, or threaten it..... and enjoyed the discomfort it caused me..... that would be humiliating and stimulating.
ReplyDeleteA simpler and more domestic thing might be simply rubbing her feet in public. Her just placing her feet in my lap, having me remove her shoes, get the lotion from her purse so I can massage and kneed her lovely feet would be an act of submission and humiliation. Be we in a bar, at a park or in a mall, it would be obvious to anyone taking just a moment to assess the situation that it was an intimate act of submission taking place. This even if I was not having to kiss them in the most sensual manner she love in private It could be known by the lotion I am to use or her softly saying something like “Remember, this is for my pleasure not yours, that comes when I decide.” just at them moment she knows someone will hear.
It is not a question of her pleasure at the expense of mine. It is her pleasure first and mine as she wishes. After all... she likes to know she has the capacity to pleasure me as well. If that includes my humiliation, so be it, because I know she will ultimately use it for both our pleasure. I know she will not be too cruel though she may push my limits by making me wait for release through various peeks of pleasure and denial. In the end she ultimately wants me, the pleasure I give her and I get to cum when she tells me, where she tells me and how she tells me. In this I trust her and surrender to her will for me.
Mr. L4H,
ReplyDeletegreat comment. You write things I feel too. thx for putting this out there for me to be able to relate to.
-SH
SH
ReplyDeleteFor me at least, "humiliation" would be, or is, a very significant factor in the whole experience of submitting to Jane, and to a certain extent being in a WLM.
Humiliation or being humiliated by your wife is clearly a state of mind, and therefore, how and what constitutes humiliation will be very different for each submissive. What cannot be disputed, however, is that humiliation caused by a purposeful act of your wife upon her husband, is a direct expression of her willingness to demonstrate the power that she holds over him. Either for her own pleasure, or because she knows that it will motivate her husband, and encourage his further submission.
Humiliation for me therefore is a very important part of my submissive mindset. Experiencing such an emotion only adds to my general sense of submission and feeling that Jane if prepared to subject me this feeling, she is in someway expressing her desire, or at least her willingness, to want to use the power and control that she has over me.
For me, humiliation is something that I feel to a lesser or great extent, when Jane puts me in embarrassing situations or makes comments, usually in front of strangers, that suggest she is using her feminine power to exert control or just demonstrate that she is “in charge”, in our relationship. Not that this happens very often, or to any great extent, but it has occurred. Certain acts carried out in private have also induced strong feelings of humiliation such as being made to sit in the kitchen naked and wait for her to return whilst holding a pair of her shoes, or being made to go out shopping whilst wearing a pair of her red lace knickers. The sense and degree of humiliation always being heightened by the involvement, or possible discovery by other people.
Cuckolding is something that has never appealed to me, despite the fact that it would involve “others” and would potentially put me in embarrassing situations. If it were another woman, can you be “cuckolded” if your wife is in a relationship with another woman, as opposed to a man, then I think that I would enjoy it and feel greatly humiliated, serving two females. Add a male element and although I might feel embarrassed, even humiliated, I don’t think that I could or would enjoy the humiliation at all.
I read you last 2 entries and from following your blog for some time now I wondered if you were heading in this direction.
ReplyDeleteI guess only you know for sure but the lack of sexual activity with your wife and the freedom your FLR allows her made me wonder if you were heading into a cuckold type relationship.
I'm curious what your thoughts would be if your wife told you that she decied to take a lover?
There is a fine line between teasing and fantasy and actually having this happen.
Mr. @AT,
ReplyDeleteHello, thx for the great comment. It is incredibly well written, as is common with your contributions. You describe my feelings concerning my limited experience with humiliation. Since it is new in this aspect for me, I thank you for putting into words some complicated emotions I feel. It is also comforting to know I am not unique in feeling the way I do about it.
I do not know enough about cuckolding to know if a f/f relationship constitutes one. However, the general idea of my wife enjoying herself sexually (in whatever form this takes) while I am kept chaste and provide her service is something I very much enjoy.
-SH