While I was waiting, I went to the washroom and she shouted to me to go ahead while I was in there. I did happily and after came back into the bedroom to continue to wait for her prompting to begin with the foot rub. When she gave me the okay to start, I found my motivation was now lower, and my desire to please weak. My thoughts kept drifting to other things I wanted to do. I began to yawn several times. I was succumbing to the after effects of my release and my obedience to continue with the foot massage was more forced then out of desire to please her. This was a dramatic change that I was conscious of while it was happening. I saw exactly what was happening to my bio-chemistry. For me it was so obvious, but amazing at the same time. My thoughts were being controlled by the chemistry in my brain.
Fumika Misato, in her web-site "Real Women Don't Do Housework" writes on this cause/effect situation. Quoting from the web-site;
"As a general rule, you will find that your husband will be on his best behavior if you keep him on the edge, in that zone between sexual frustration and satisfaction. You absolutely do not want to frustrate your husband for too long. If your husband becomes overly frustrated, he will be tempted to seek relief outside the marriage either by himself or worse. On the other hand, you do not want to over satisfy him either. A husband who is over satisfied will have much less enthusiasm in attending to your needs.
Keeping him on edge is partly a matter of constantly teasing and arousing him at any excuse. If he accomplishes something, anything, you can reward him with an erotic kiss and a pat on his crotch that will both reward and excite him.
Keeping him on edge is also a matter of controlling his sexual release. Finding the right frequency is tricky and requires experience shaped by trial and error in your own marriage. Also, the right frequency may change over time or vary with the circumstances."
As my desire to serve my wife is best fulfilled when my service is to her liking, I have grown to appreciate sexual denial, as when I am denied and easily aroused, I am more attentive to her. The circumstances last night just drive home this belief to me in clear terms. After a release, I become unmotivated, lazy, and selfish. Denied and easily aroused, I am attentive and content in service, seeking opportunities to please her.